“To every thing there is a season, and A TIME to every purpose under the heaven” (Ecc 3:1), Solomon clearly spells out that there is a season for everything. There is a season to have sex, which is the marriage season. There is also a time to every purpose under heaven, showing us that sex also has its right time. “True, God made everything beautiful in itself and IN ITS TIME” (Ecc 3:11 MSG), showing us that sex is beautiful, but can become ugly when used at the wrong time. There is a difference between a teenage high school girl being pregnant and a married forty year old woman being pregnant. Everyone knows that it is not the right time for the teenager to be pregnant, though we know that pregnancy is not bad in itself. The difference is the timing. God has ordained a right timing for every good thing He has created and the right timing for sex is when you are married. He never placed the sexual desires in you to simply torture you and wait to hit you with his hammer from heaven when they rise up. That is very unlike our God, maybe that is the religious “god”, but not the God of the Bible whose son is Jesus Christ. “Whoever obeys his (God’s)  commands will avoid trouble. The mind of a wise person will know the right time and the right way to act” (Ecc 8:5 GW), as a wise man you will know the right time for sex and the right way to act in abstaining from it till you are married.
                  One of the sins spoken about so much in the Bible and especially the New Testament is sexual sin. Adultery and fornication are jointly spoken about in the Bible as some of the rebellious acts committed by men in disregard to His command. Adultery involves the sexual intercourse of any man, with a married woman, who is not her husband and vice-versa. Fornication is the sexual intercourse of any man with an unmarried woman. This is clearly shown to be the only sin which is done against someone’s body and is different from other sins, “There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another” (1Co 6:18 MSG). Your body does not belong to you but to the Lord. Your body is a temple where the Holy Spirit dwells, no longer does He dwell in temples made with human hands. “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor EFFEMINATE, nor ABUSERS OF THEMSELVES WITH MANKIND… What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s” (1Co 6:9, 19-20). God promises that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God. This speaks about our ability to operate in the kingdom of God on the earth and if we persist in these wrong deeds it may even lead to one missing the heavenly kingdom. Paul clearly lists sexual sins as being the chief sins that hinder people from operating in the fullness of God’s kingdom on earth. God’s kingdom involves righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost. It involves Jesus reigning as king over sickness, disease, demons and poverty in your life. When you violate these principles, your ability to reign in this life is hindered. “Or,  do you not know that evil people will not possess God’s kingdom?  Do not be misled:  neither will sexually immoral people,  nor idolaters,  nor those who are sexually unfaithful to their mates,  nor homosexual perverts.  [Note:  The Greek uses two words here,  denoting both the passive and active partners in male homosexual acts]” (1Co 6:9 AUV-NT), this Understandable version brings out these sins verse clearly. Apostle Paul even speaks about sexual sins as being on e of the primary works of the flesh, “Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, UNCLEANNESS, LASCIVIOUSNESS” (Gal 5:19). One of the sexual sins described is lasciviousness which means looseness or tendency to excite lust. Even dressing in indecent clothing is tantamount to lasciviousness since it indicates looseness and excites lust in the onlookers. These are all works of the flesh that need to be crucified, “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified their corrupt nature along with its passions and desires” (Gal 5:24 GW).
                  The scriptures give us clear ways how to avoid falling into sexual sin, the primary one being to flee. “As time went on, his master’s wife became infatuated with Joseph and one day said, “Sleep with me.” He wouldn’t do it. He said to his master’s wife, “Look, with me here, my master doesn’t give a second thought to anything that goes on here–he’s put me in charge of everything he owns. He treats me as an equal. The only thing he hasn’t turned over to me is you. You’re his wife, after all! How could I violate his trust and sin against God?” She pestered him day after day after day, but he stood his ground. He refused to go to bed with her. On one of these days he came to the house to do his work and none of the household servants happened to be there. She grabbed him by his cloak, saying, “Sleep with me!” He left his coat in her hand and ran out of the house” (Gen 39:7-12 MSG). Joseph became very great because he knew when to run. Paul advise his spiritual son, Timothy, to flee or run away from sexual sin, “FLEE ALSO YOUTHFUL LUSTS: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart” (2Ti 2:22). You have to flee from individuals whose minds are not renewed and who will drag you down the path to fornication. Solomon speaks of a foolish young man who passed near the house of a prostitute and was finally enticed by her, “For at the window of my house I looked through my casement, And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtle of heart. (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him… With her much fair speech SHE CAUSED HIM TO YIELD, with the flattering of her lips she forced him. He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks” (Pro 7:6-13, 21-22). This is the same thing that happens when a Christian dates or starts relating with unbelievers. I knew of a lady who was born again and would frequently attend church but was always in the company of heathen men. She would fall into sexual sin not less than once a month. Thank God she did not become pregnant or get AIDS, but this does not mean other repercussions are not following. Illicit sex can cause future marriage break ups and even leads to higher chances of yielding to the same sin in the future. I prayed for this lady and she was baptized in the Holy Spirit and she is still free till this day.
                  God created sex, but he also created a right time for its use. Choose to obey God and stay sexually pure and a virgin every day till you marry. God is not withholding something good from you, He simply is helping you to avoid an early grave. “Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body” (1Co 6:19-20 MSG).